I Love Someone with Diabetes: Roger Lee Holman

Diabetes affects the whole family, whether you’re a parent, sibling, child, grandchild or spouse. This week on the blog, we’ll be featuring stories about loving and caring for someone with diabetes.


Roger and his wife Lahonda

Roger and his wife Lahonda

Name: Roger Lee Holman
Location: Norman, Okla.

I love many people with diabetes. It has impacted countless friends and family members.

I’ve seen firsthand what happens to a person when they have diabetes. It can be a very hard disease to control (even seems impossible sometimes).

I lost my grandmother to type 2 diabetes when I was a small child. She didn’t even know she had it until just before it killed her. It was agonizing for her. She was only 56.

My aunt Sharon was only 54 whenever she died from kidney failure and other complications of type 2 diabetes. I remember seeing the fear in her eyes. The pain she was going through seemed to be unbearable.

My little sister Tawana suffers from the effects of type 2. She has open sores and deteriorating bones in her foot. The fear of losing her feet is always on her mind. She is only 37 years old and has had to stop working because of her condition. She’s so far behind on her bills, I’m afraid she’ll never catch up.

My wife Lahonda and I have been together for nine years. She was diagnosed with type 2 a few years before we met. Lahonda is now 53 and constantly struggles with her weight, abdominal pain, fatigue and overall poor health. Counting carbohydrates and sugar content for every meal is harder than it sounds. Low-carb/low-sugar products generally cost more. My wife’s blood glucose has ranged from 30 to over 500 mg/dl. She has had heat exhaustion countless times, plus diabetic ketoacidosis (DKA). She has neuropathy (nerve) pain all the time, too.

I feel so helpless for her at times. Her diabetes medication is so costly that we can no longer afford it. Our insurance only pays a portion of the expense. We’ve started the long process toward gastric bypass surgery, only to have our insurance lapse. We’ve been on many, many diets, and it’s always the same story.

I pray every day for her and everyone else I know with it. I ask God to please give strength and be with all who live with this awful disease. I also pray that someday soon a cure will be found. Stop Diabetes®.

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2 Responses to I Love Someone with Diabetes: Roger Lee Holman

  1. We worry about our son who was diagnosed at 17 months with type 1 Diabetes. I hope there is a cure soon as well. Your story is very hard to digest, and I can’t imagine the emotional pain that most be going on along with Diabetes in your life. If you get a chance, come check out my new blog at http://www.TheDiabeticJournal.org My family is new to Diabetes, so I blog about it everyday as a emotional release.

  2. Madeline Vann says:

    Good morning! I am working on an article for Everydayhealth.com (29 million readers monthly!) about caregiving for someone with type 2 diabetes. I was hoping you would be willing to talk to me about caregiving for your wife with her type 2 – please let me know if you are available!

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